2026 Life Logs, Day 157: But on the other hand …
Date: Saturday, June 6, 2026
Weather: Partly Sunny and Warm; High Temp 77, Low 60 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA
Decisions. Once again, I sound like Tevye in ‘Fiddler on the Roof’. He is forever hashing over a decision, giving equal time to both sides. We could do this, but then on the other hand, we could that. I mentioned the fact that I am having to make many decisions right now, almost to the point of letting it paralyze me mentally. For me, living alone and not having a partner to talk with when making decisions just leaves those decisions constantly rotating around in my head. And that can lead to mental paralysis. No decision at all.
I am planning an end of the year Encore reception for 70 members at the Museums on the Green on June 17. Our programs this year have focused on Falmouth history, so for this final event we will continue to focus on history, celebrating the 250th birthday of this country. I named it the ‘red, white & blue’ reception, and since it is a birthday celebration, of course we have to have a birthday cake. But what kind, what kind of icing, what kind of filling between layers, and how do I want it decorated? I am deciding what kind of wine to buy and how many bottles, what kind of prosecco to buy for an initial toast and how many bottles, what food to order and how much, how do we arrange things in case of rain? And the list of decisions goes on. This afternoon I literally had to go over to see if one of the Goldstones could help me decide on what kind of cake. And thankfully, Heather and Jonah were home and helped make that decision. I went directly to Windfall Market and made that order. One decision made.
Then there are all of the decisions dealing with moving my sister. That list is too long to list here. I did write an email to family last night to ask for suggestions, and I did hear from a couple of people. But this move is really on me. I am not moving most of her furniture here because she is downsizing to a small studio apartment with only one small closet for her clothes from a one bedroom with two big closets. Her queen size bed won’t fit in the new apartment and neither will her double recliners with a little storage unit connecting them. All I know at this point is that I can take possession of the studio apartment on June 15 and begin furnishing it and I will get Patsy here sometime between then and the end of the month. It could be sooner rather than later, so I don’t have time to order furniture. And this is where today’s trip to New Bedford and North Dartmouth comes in. Jonah had to be at New Bedford High School, about 45 minutes from here, at 7:45 am to take the SAT. I offered to take him, and then Heather pointed out that there are a number of furniture stores in North Darthmouth. I could do two things at once. So, while Jonah was taking the test, I shopped. I went to Ashley Furniture, Bob’s Discount Furniture, and Laz-Y Boy. What I found out is that none of them had a recliner in stock that fits our needs and ordering is a 6 to 8 week affair. That helped make one decision. I knew that as soon as Jonah and I got back home, I should go to the furniture store on Main Street and buy the recliner I found there yesterday. But then I debated that with myself. I haven’t signed the paperwork committing to Bridges yet and we haven’t figured out a way to get Patsy from there to here. What if I buy the recliner today and then the move doesn’t happen? I decided to go to Barbo’s, the Falmouth furniture store, to see if I can get my money back if the move doesn’t happen. The answer is yes, so another decision was made. The Best Home Furnishings Sedgefield Leather Power Space Saver Recliner will be delivered to Bridges on June 16. Just now as I was writing about this, I searched online for the recliner I bought and found the description. “The sleek and uncomplicated Sedgefield is the perfect size for someone with a smaller frame. Not too big and not too small, Goldilocks would say this recliner is ‘just right’. This petite recline still offers all the comfort and support you want.” Let’s hope it lives up to the description.
This evening, I forgot about all of this and went to see Ollie’s last soccer game of the spring season. Jonah was one of the referees for this game, so again I got a two for one.
Afterwards Heather suggested that everyone go to Taco Blanco for a team dinner and many parents and players did come. Sam came to join us, then he and Jonah left to watch sunset at the beach with friends. And then Heather and I left Ollie with friends while we drove separate cars to Sagamore. Jed flies home from Canada tonight and will take the last bus to the Sagamore Park ‘n Ride. We left their van there for him to drive home. That way, at least Heather can get a good night’s sleep.
