2026 Life Logs, Day 179: This Beautiful Country of Ours
Date: Sunday, June 28, 2026
Weather: Sunny; High Temp 79, Low 60 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA

I have lived in 12 of the 50 states in this country, traveled by car, truck, or van from coast to coast 3 times, hitchhiked from Oregon to San Francisco, down through Big Sur to Los Angeles and back east to Illinois. Mark and I drove from Indiana to Alaska and traveled from the Kenai Peninsula to Fairbanks and then back down to the state of Washington. I have traveled by bus from Illinois to Idaho and Mark and I traveled by bus from Boston to Amarillo, Texas. Plus, Mark and I drove most of Route 66, and we sailed the east coast from Maine to the Keys. I have not seen all of this country (I have not been to Hawaii.), but I have been blessed to see enough to truly appreciate its beauty and its diversity. I love this country. And I say this because …

This morning my friend Midge texted a group of us to say that CBS Sunday Morning had a wonderful 250th tribute on the air right then. I used to record that program and watch it when there was a really good episode. But I am currently boycotting CBS for obvious reasons. Still, I was curious enough to find a way to watch the episode tonight. It was definitely worth watching—the diversity of our food, our music, our national parks–until the very end when author and historian Douglas Brinkley ended the program with a message to give us hope when our democracy is in such peril. But he stated that this country has been through worse before and we have come out of it. I disagree with him on that point. Certainly, the Civil War was horrific, and our democracy has been challenged many times and we have prevailed. But what Brinkley did not acknowledge is that never before in our history has our democratic form of government been challenged from within by the elected President of our country, along with all of the power that office wields. Hope is essential, but hope is not a strategy in this case. My wish for the upcoming 250th anniversary of this country is that the people will come together and stand united to do whatever is necessary to uphold our democracy of, by, and for the people. Historians who offer hope and don’t recognize the gravity of our current situation are not helpful. In my opinion, people like Brinkley are in denial. Every single one of us has to wake-up and work hard, work like we have never worked before, to take back our country.

There. I got that off my chest. But while I am on the topic of the beauty of this country, I proudly report that my daughter spent her day traveling 130 miles north from the Toolik Field Station to Deadhorse, Alaska, on Prudhoe Bay. This is as far north as you can go on land in the United States. I sure hope she took lots of photos. And I can’t wait until she gets home on Thursday and can share the stories of her far north adventure.

What I did today had nothing to do with saving our democracy or traveling to the ends of the earth. I visited my sister and took her on a little explore outside of her new ‘home’. My friend Midge, who recommended we all watch CBS Sunday Morning, lives in a senior retirement community across the street from my sister’s memory care facility. After lunch Patsy asked to go for a ride, so I strapped her in her wheelchair, texted Midge, and walked Patsy out of the building (with permission, of course), across the road, and through the Southport neighborhood to Midge’s condo. Midge brought out cold drinks and we sat together, Patsy in her wheelchair and Midge and I sitting on the steps of her front porch. Patsy had a conversation with Midge about the flowers on her front porch. It was warm and sunny and beautiful, and this was a wonderful way to spend time with my sister this afternoon. Since she seems interested in flowers, I will have to plan some car trips to take her to various gardens or even to a nursery. But first I have to get medical help to figure out why all of a sudden she is not walking with her walker. She is like dead weight when I try to transfer her from her wheelchair to standing with her walker. Until this is better, getting her in and out of a car would be very difficult. I would need a second person. So, we will walk in the neighborhood for now and hope that being wheelchair bound is temporary. But it is encouraging that she is interested in getting out and exploring.

2026 Life Logs, Day 178: Baby Steps
Date: Saturday, June 27, 2026
Weather: Sunny Early, Turning Cloudy with Sprinkles; High Temp 77, Low 62 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA

Once again, I spent my entire dealing either dealing with issues related to my sister or being with her at Bridges. But by day’s end, with a little help from a friend, I realized that it is time that I take baby steps to get my life back to where it was 3 months ago when my sister was diagnosed with Covid and double pneumonia the first time. And it is time that I allow her to take the baby steps needed to become a fully integrated resident of her memory care community. It is easy to say this, but it is not easy to make it happen. Since she arrived on Wednesday evening, I have been with her at the memory care facility much of the time. I wanted her to know that she is not alone, that we didn’t just move her here and plop her down amongst strangers. I wanted her to know that someone she knows is there for her. But that is not her reality. I do not pretend to even begin to understand the world as experienced by someone with dementia, but I do know that each time I return to see Patsy, she is surprised to see me and wonders aloud why I am there. It is heartbreaking to experience, and I am going to seek out a support group to help me through this. After being with her over the past three days, I know that she is in a safe environment where she is well cared for and involved in activities throughout the day. She goes to chair yoga in the morning where she doesn’t yet participate, but she enjoys the music they play while exercising. This afternoon there was a concert, one man with his guitar who performs there weekly. He sings familiar songs and some of the residents sing along. And today she asked that we sit in the living area and watch television with the others. While in assisted living in North Carolina, she rarely went to the many activities. She seems much more interested in being with others here than she did there. And they tell me that is a good thing.

I asked my friend Karen Baranowski to come meet me at Bridges today to see Patsy and give me some advice. Karen’s PhD is in Gerontology, and she knows a whole lot more than I do about dealing with dementia patients. Her ‘tough love’ advice was hard to hear, but it was what I needed to hear. Now I just need to follow through. Again, it is easier said than done. But I thank her for coming and for providing dinner for me tonight. Thank you, Karen!

2026 Life Logs, Day 177: Happy 17th Birthday to Jonah plus Last Day of School
Date: Friday, June 26, 2026
Weather: Cloudy with Noon Time Down Pour; High Temp 73, Low 63 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA

I haven’t written a log since Monday, so lots to catch up on. But the big news today is that it is Jonah’s 17th birthday, and he is spending it in Honolulu with his good friend Kaiden. They are visiting Kaiden’s grandfather and enjoying the Pacific Ocean. Heather sent me some photos, and they look like they are having a great time. Jonah loves the Pacific Ocean and I look forward to hearing his stories from the trip when he returns next week, just in time for the 4th of July. Happy Birthday to my very lucky grandson!

Today was the last day of school for Ollie, and the very last day that I will ever again pick up a Goldstone from Lawerence Middle School. Another milestone. It is hard for me to believe, but
Ollie is now off to Falmouth High School.

The last week has been one of the hardest weeks I have ever negotiated. I am still working almost full time dealing with my sister’s move. I made one trip to Bridges right after lunch to check on her and to deliver the new clothes I had purchased for her. Then I made a second trip to visit with her after dinner. The residents watch Britain’s Got Talent show after dinner, so I am being introduced to whole host of new experiences. And in between visits, I was downloading and filling out forms to get her medical records sent here, making arrangements for her first ‘wellness’ visit form the healthcare group that visits Bridges every Tuesday and arranging a time to meet with them, filling out paperwork to get her hair done, shopping for clothes for her, checking in with the nurse that comes from outside the memory care facility to check her blood sugar level twice and a day and give her the insulin injection in the evening, and most importantly, just spending time visiting with her. I have a lot to learn about dementia but one thing I know about my sister is that she does know who I am and she knows my name. Today she tried to tell me a story about Heather. I think she associates Heather with me. And today she asked me questions like, “Where do you sleep at night?” When I answered that I sleep at my house but that she sleeps at Bridges so people can take care of her, her response was, “You are so lucky to be able to sleep in your own home.” Then she changed the subject and went on to talk about things that made no sense to me at all. As I spend more time with her, maybe I will learn to understand her language. I have a feeling those stories she tells me that sound absolutely insane probably relate to reality in some way. I just don’t know how to understand her language yet.

Tomorrow morning, I hope to catch up on writing the logs from the past three days. But I want to add one more thing to this log. My nephew Rex and Patsy’s son-in-law Bill made it back to the Charlotte area in the early afternoon today. They spent four full days traveling in order to get Patsy here. Thank you, Rex and Bill, and Brenda who traveled with them to care for Patsy. Today Bridges posted a photo from their arrival in the RV on Wednesday saying, “Bridges or Bust! Our newest resident arrived in an RV from North Carolina this week and what a trooper! Close to two 12-hour days to arrive at Bridges Mashpee and our tender loving care!! Kudos to family members involved in the successful road trip! “

2026 Life Logs, Day 173: The Three Amigas
Date: Monday, June 22, 2026
Weather: Cloudy with Periods of Rain; High Temp 74, Low 64 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow and Friends Lynne and Peppe, Falmouth, MA

Once again, a good deal of the day was spent getting ready for my sister’s arrival at her new home at Bridges of Epoch in Mashpee. The trip north begins tomorrow morning around 9 am and hopefully she will arrive here by Wednesday afternoon. Fingers crossed.

If you have been reading these logs, you know that my friend Lynne Kirwin has been here visiting. And today another friend, Peppe Christianson arrived. I met Peppe in Salomon Atoll in the Chagos Archipelago in the middle of the Indian Ocean. She and her husband Bob sailed into the atoll in mid-April of 2010. Lynne and Ed of Constance and Mark and I on Windbird had been there for a couple of weeks before Far Niente arrived. The three amigas try to keep in contact, even though we have lost the three amigos. Bob, Ed, and Mark. Things I needed to do to prepare for my sister’s arrival kept me from visiting with them this afternoon, but they hung out with Shadow and caught up on happenings since they were last together. Tonight we did go out to dinner together for some sushi and Chinese food. Lynne leaves in the morning, but Peppe is here until Thursday morning. So hopefully we get a chance to catch up tomorrow.

2026 Life Logs, Day 172: Summer is Here!
Date: Sunday, June 21, 2026
Weather: Sunny; High Temp 78, Low 58 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow and Friend Lynne, Falmouth, MA

Happy Father’s Day to fathers everywhere, but especially Justin and Jed. Being the fathers of my grandchildren makes them the most important fathers in the world to me. I do hope they both had a special day!

Heather sent a photo from Toolik Station in the Arctic taken at 12:34 am, sunrise in that location. What a great way to celebrate the summer solstice. Welcome summer!

Lynne and I spent much of the day continuing to do some shopping for my sister’s apartment and I spent a good deal of time going through the to do list and writing emails and texts to various people—the nurse who will handle her insulin injections, her doctor in North Carolina who will see her one last time tomorrow, the advisor at Bridges, my sister’s son-in-law sending him a list of things he needs to pack tomorrow, and on and on. But we are getting there and I truly appreciate Lynne’s help. This whole move has been a bit overwhelming for me and it has been great to have the support.

We took a break late afternoon and went outside to do some bush trimming along the driveway and then came in and fixed dinner. Nothing exciting, but just a day in th

2026 Life Logs, Day 170: USA Soccer Wins Again; Lynne Arrives; My Sister
Date: Friday, June 19, 2026
Weather: Mostly Sunny, Windy; High Temp 77, Low 63 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow and Friend Lynne, Falmouth, MA

I think we have settled on the final plan for moving my sister here. An RV has been rented, but unfortunately it cannot be one way. So, Patsy’s son-in-law and my nephew will have to drive it back to Charlotte. I am working on this end to get all arrangements made for her arrival. I just hope this plan works.

This afternoon was the USA played the Australian soccer game in the World Cup. The USA won their second game in the World Cup series, so we shall see how they fare in the next one. Go, USA! Before Heather left, I told her I thought we all needed a USA jersey with its red and white stripes and a dash of blue. She ordered them, and we wore them today as we watched the game from the Goldstone’s living room. We looked like walking US flags. These will be great for the 250th celebration on July 4.

After the game, my friend Lynne Kirwin arrived for a few days.. The drive took longer than expected due to traffic, but the important thing is that he is here now and settled in for a few days. So good to see her!

2026 Life Logs, Day 171: Rally on the Green with Lynne, Shopping for My Sister
Date: Saturday, June 20, 2026
Weather: Sunny; High Temp 80, Low 59 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow and Friend Lynne, Falmouth, MA

The most exciting thing for me today was that I had the time to make my green breakfast smoothie for the first time in months. After we had our smoothies, Lynne and I went to the rally on the Green where she got the chance to meet some of my friends. It was a beautiful day, so it was enjoyable to stand up for democracy while socializing at the same time.

Afterwards, we went to the thrift shop to see if they had sheets for a full-sized bed and to look for other small items for my sister’s new apartment. They did not have sheets, but they had a couple of other things she will need. We stopped at Home Goods to look for a zippered, waterproof mattress cover to no avail, but we did find one set of sheets. We will continue this search tomorrow.

If things go as planned, she will leave North Carolina on Tuesday morning in a 24’ RV and arrive here at her new home at Bridges on Wednesday afternoon. There are tons of things to be done there to get her things packed up and tons of things to do here to get her little apartment ready, but we are on it. Her son-in-law and paid companion are doing the packing up and I am making all of the arrangements here. We thought her arrival was going to be on the 29th and that I was flying down there to pack things and fly back with her. When the doctor said no to that on Thursday, it got us scrambling to make this new plan. Lynne went with me to Bridges this afternoon to see the apartment and we will continue purchasing things tomorrow.

Tonight, Jed took Jonah and his friends Kaiden and Jack to Boston to a Jack Johnson concert. Sam was out with friends, so Lynne and I picked up Ollie and brought him here for dinner. We were having slices of chicken breast and Ollie made a great honey, garlic, red chili pepper, and tamari sauce marinade which was delicious.

2026 Life Logs, Day 169: Quicksand
Date: Thursday, June 18, 2026
Weather: Partly Cloudy, Very Windy; High Temp 74, Low 64 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA

Working on the details of the possible RV road trip to get my sister here safely … leading an Exploring Public Policy meeting where Farming Falmouth made a presentation and invited local elected to attend … more working on the details to figure out if this road trip is going to work out for my sister … Indivisible Falmouth meeting. This is all just too much. I feel like I am being sucked down in quicksand. But, I have to keep going so I don’t get totally sucked under.

The woman who works with my sister is willing to do the trip, but she has no Real ID and I will have to help her get special TSA permission to fly with her regular driver’s license. My sister’s doctor in North Carolina will not give permission for her medication subscriptions to be transferred to a pharmacy here. The agency my sister’s companion works for cannot let her go with Patsy without paying her for 48 straight hours of work which means paying overtime. And will my sister’s Power of Attorney who controls the purse strings pay for this. The alternative is that I have to fly down and do the trip with her which means telling a friend from Oregon who is coming to visit that I will not be here. The list goes on, but you get the idea. Every hour of every day brings a new problem to be solved. And at the same time, I have to keep living my already crazy busy life. Whew!

My house looks like a cyclone hit, the garden is a mess, Shadow has gotten no attention for days, but I don’t have any meeting on my calendar in the next two weeks. That doesn’t mean it won’t be busy with getting my sister here and settled, but at least I can now focus on that. Tomorrow by very good friend Lynne Kirwin, who lives in New Zealand, but visits home in the summer, arrives. Maybe she can help me put this mess of a house back together!

2026 Life Logs, Day 168: Garden Party at the Museums on the Green
Date: Wednesday, June 17, 2026
Weather: Gorgeous Day; High Temp 75, Low 57 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA

The part of my life that is dealing with moving my sister here from North Carolina is just mess right now, but regardless, today was a gorgeous day for the end-of-the year Encore reception at the Museums on the Green. As VP of Programs, it was my idea. And it was lovely. But if my grandson Sam had not come to my rescue, I don’t know what I would have done. Yesterday as I was going through all of the last-minute things I had to do for set up, I realized I was in trouble. I asked Sam if he would help me, and he immediately responded that he would be glad to help. Thank you, Sam.

I had already asked my friend Karen Baranowski to be in charge of picking up the 250th birthday cake for our ‘red,white&blue’ reception and dealing with cutting and serving. Thank you, Karen.

Christina Brodie, who was Co-President of Encore with me for two years, and Past Co-President with me this year, got her TIPS certification so she could be the bartender. Plus, she offered to go buy the wine and other drinks and deliver them. Thank you, Christina.

This year’s President, Jeanne Fortier, is also TIPS certified to serve liquor in Massachusetts, so she took on the job of greeting everyone and handing them a glass of prosecco for our toast to our incoming and outgoing Board members. Thank you, Jeanne.

The food was being catered, so that left me with nothing to do. Wrong. I had made the mistake of planning to do the set up by myself. That meant getting 70 chairs out of two storage areas in two different buildings and setting them up in the Cultural Center. And getting all of the tables needed for food and sign-in and for serving the prosecco and for the bar out of storage and set up and moved to the various locations (not all close together). And I had to buy the ice at the last minute and put up the tent for the bar to be outside and I had to meet with the caterer. With Sam and I working as fast as we could, it took a full hour and half to do all of this. And when Sam finished all of that, he helped unpack the champagne flutes which were plastic and had a base that had to be attached. He was so good at all of this that I think he should get a summer job working for a catering service. Thank you, Sam. You saved my day.

Despite all the preparation, we had a lovely garden party. The weather was gorgeous and things went off without a hitch. Well, maybe I didn’t order quite enough food, but no one complained. The Executive Director of the Museums on the Green was so gracious to let us have our celebration of Falmouth history and the birthday of our country on their beautiful grounds. So, one last thank you to Rachel Lovett.

I have been on the Encore Board for three years and it has been a great experience. But it has taken a good chunk of my life. I will still be an active Encore member and lead various groups, but I won’t have the time-consuming duties of a Board member. Christina and I came into Encore together to serve as Co-Presidents together and we are going off the Board together. And someone snapped a photo of us looking way too jubilant this afternoon!

In between all of this, I spent much of day still trying to figure out transportation here for my sister. My nephew’s wife cannot come along to take care of Patsy, so I have asked the woman who has worked as her private care companion for three years if she will do it. I could do it, but I would have to quickly cancel the visit of a good friend who has traveled here from Oregon who is coming on Monday. I will find out tomorrow what the private care companion thinks about accompanying Patsy on the two-day trip. Over her three years of being with Patsy every afternoon, she has gotten to know Patsy’s son-in-law and my nephew from West Virginia who will be the drivers. Fingers crossed that his idea will work.

2026 Life Logs, Day 167: Strike That, Reserve It
Date: Tuesday, June 16, 2026
Weather: High Temp 73, Low 59 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA

Today is just a blur in mind because so many things were on, then off again, concerning by sister’s move here to Bridges. At day’s end, after multiple phone calls and emails, she is not flying here with Flying Angels. Strike that, reverse it. Her doctor will not sign the release form for air travel until Thursday of next week, and that is just too close to the flying date to make arrangements. Thankfully, I had not yet signed the contract with Flying Angels and paid the $10,000. Learning that the doctor wouldn’t sign sent me into a scramble of trying to figure out another way of getting her here. This evening, Patsy’s son-in-law came up with a maybe workable alternative. He could rent an RV, get our nephew and his wife from West Virginia to drive with him, and bring her that way. It would be a hard, two-day road trip for her, but at least she would have a private bathroom, lessening the number of stops that would have to made otherwise. There are still many details to work out, but it is a possibility.

Other than dealing with the travel arrangements, I had a dental cleaning and went to Bridges for the furniture delivery for sister’s apartment. It has been a mentally draining and frustrating day and tomorrow I am host the Encore reception at the Museums on the Green. That will take most of tomorrow between set up, reception, and clean up.