by Judy Handley | May 11, 2026 | 2026 Life Logs |
2026 Life Logs, Day 131: A Little Windbird History
Date: Monday, May 11, 2026
Weather: Overcast, Some Precipitation; High Temp 62, Low 44 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA
I heard today from a ‘friend’ I have never met in person, only through comments on my blog and email exchanges. When we first ‘met’, his children were small and mine were both married. I learned that his wife was a pharmacist and he and Mark often wrote back and forth. By the time we returned from our voyage, Rich had bought a sailboat and had kids in college. He emailed today to comment on my Mother’s Day blog. If my history is correct, the first blog he responded to was 19 years ago on May1st of 2007. Windbird was preparing to depart New Zealand for Fiji. This was his comment.
5/1/2007 Day 7, Year 2: Still On Track for Thursday Departure (from New Zealand to Fiji)
“Just wanted to reply and let you know that I enjoy reading about the simple daily chores as much as the nautical component. It is help for those of us contemplating the future what living the ‘real’ cruising life is all about. Thanks … and know that your posts are being read.” from RichC
After that, we corresponded regularly. Rich was often a wonderful source of information that Mark and I needed and, in return, our blog posts were giving him a vision of the real cruising life.
Fast forward a few years …
Belated post announcing my friends the Handley’s U.S. return
Posted By RichC on My Desultory Blog, June 16, 2011
“Many who know me are well aware that I enjoy following sailors who set out on voyages across the oceans of our world. One couple, Mark and Judy Handley, have been exceptional at posting daily updates and making their travels both easy and interesting to follow. I’ve corresponded with them over the years and have enjoyed many an informative email exchange with Mark and Judy regarding things that they have learned thoughout the years (I shared some of our exchange during my son’s spring break aboard Encore this past spring).
The two experienced bluewater voyagers recently returned to the United States in their 6th year of sailing around the world aboard their 42-foot Tayana sailboat called Windbird – see HandleySail.com. If you are tight on time, don’t try to read their ‘logs’ until you have rested eyes and at least a week … and perhaps another few days for their photos. Judy is currently working on sorting out the very best photos in order to create a presentation … one I hope to see someday. If you only do one thing, take a minute and watch their accelerated plots on the Shiptrak Log entries map.
Currently the Handleys are enjoying a relaxing family and friends homecoming at their intended U.S. landfall of South Carolina … where Mark is also being treated for a “hopefully” minor medical issue. Get well soon Mark … I still need a more advice.”
Rich still writes daily, as do I. He began his blog on September 1, 2005 (I believe), and I began mine on October 18 of the same year. His blog is called My Desultory Blog, Desultory thoughts on a variety of subjects. When I checked WordPress today, it said that I have posted 7,076 blogs over the years. That is every day for more than 20 years except for the time we spent back home during our sail around the world. I only posted logs periodically during those three visits. I think Rich has posted daily since September 1 of 2005. Between the two of us, we have probably posted more ~15,000 times. The interesting thing to me is that I learned in the past ten years that we are on opposite sides of the political spectrum, yet we have so much in common. Stick with me Rich. One of these days we are going to meet in person so that we can have a face-to-face discussion about democratic socialism versus capitalism. Smiley face. Smiley face. And I’ll show you one of the many Voyage of Windbird presentations I have given over the years. .
by Judy Handley | May 10, 2026 | 2026 Life Logs |
2026 Life Logs, Day 130: Happy Mother’s Day
Date: Sunday, May 10, 2026
Weather: Mostly Sunny and Warmer; High Temp 65, Low 47 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA
I consider parenting the hardest but most rewarding job on earth. But for women who are mothers and also work out of the home at a paid job, the task is doubled. When I married in 1974, Mark and I wrote our own marriage vows stating that our life together would always be a 50/50 proposition. And we always worked toward that. We knew we were both always going to have full-time careers, and we knew that meant the chores at home had to be 50/50. Things went along smoothly until we had children. Then I remember the ‘discussions’ about what 50/50 really means. Mark was an over the top, wonderful husband and father. He was loving and caring, could design and sew a Halloween costume in an hour., or design and build a home in a matter of months He could do the job of a plumber, or transform into an electrician. And I was always there beside him helping in any way I could. But to him, ‘helping’ meant I needed to know what to do. He always said to me, “Judy, if I have to tell you what to do next to help me, then you are not doing your job. You have to anticipate what is needed and do it without being told.” Okay. I watched and learned and did my best to support whatever he was doing. Then we had children and the discussions about what 50/50 meant changed. Mark would do anything I asked. As he would say to me, “All you have to do is ask.” That was great, but in my mind, I was always asking why he wasn’t anticipating what needed to be done before I asked. Why did I have to tell him to change a diaper, when I was expected to pick up just the right board and bring it to him without being asked when we were building something. Over the years, I just gave up and made lists and told him what to do. And in my observation that happens with many couples. Sometimes the roles are reversed, but in too many cases, it is the mother who not only has to hold a full time job, anticipate everything her husband needs, chart out the family’s schedule for the week, take on the responsibility of making the to do lists and the shopping lists, and then do 50 percent of things listed. Or if you are a single mother, you have to do it all alone. In either case, the mother becomes the manager and the worker at the same time. The responsibilities are huge.
Now, if you are a father who works full time and does most of the manual labor around the house like lawn mowing, car repairs, or fixing a clogged toilet, you might think that, of course, you have the harder job. But those things are just tasks, and I’ll bet you usually have the help of your partner in doing them. It is not the work to be done that is the problem, it is the management piece, in my observation, that keeps you awake at night and is often taken on by mothers. That management piece is what makes the job doubly difficult.
I’ll stop there because, right now, I am asking myself, why in the world I am writing this? My answer is that I think the mothers of the world deserve great reverence for the work they do every day and my rambling here is just my way of trying to find out why I feel that way. But for whatever reason, if you are a mother, my heart is with you on this Mother’s Day.
And if you are the mother of my grandchildren, my daughter Heather and my daughter-in-law Jo, or if you are the mother of children under 18, or if you have ever had children, I hope you know how important the job of ‘mother’ is in shaping the lives of our children who are the future of the world. Happy Mother’s Day!
BTW I talked with Justin and family in Puerto Rico today via Zoom, and I had a delightful dinner down by the beach with Heather and family. That’s what I meant to write about, but somehow I got off track.
by Judy Handley | May 10, 2026 | 2026 Life Logs |
2026 Life Logs, Day 129: Prom Night for Jonah
Date: Saturday, May 9, 2026
Weather: Cloudy, Sprinkles, Then Rain This Evening; High Temp 62, Low 50 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA
The Falmouth High School Junior-Senior Prom was tonight. Jonah and his good friend Kaiden decided to go together. I think they are still afraid of girls! So Kaiden’s mom brought Kaiden to Heather and Jed’s so we could get photos.
Then we all went to Falmouth Harbor for more photos. It looked like all of the kids and parents, and grandparents showed up at the harbor. It was quite a group. It was super windy, but at least the rain held off. Group pictures were taken with soccer team friends, jazz band friends, and playmates from childhood. When Heather and Jed lived in East Falmouth, they lived next door to the Keefe’s who had two children, Molly and Joey. Molly is in Jonah’s class and she and Kaiden both sail in the summers at Waquoit Yacht Club. Lilly, who always took summer swim lessons at Menauhant Beach with Jonah and Molly was there as well. Taking photos of that foursome was a bit emotional for me. As I was framing the photo, memories of all the years of fun with them flew through my mind. But in the frame of a phot, I could see plainly that those frolicking, crazy little kids are all grown up. And it happened in what seemed like just a blink of an eye.
by Judy Handley | May 8, 2026 | 2026 Life Logs |
2026 Life Logs, Day 128: These Truths and Grandkids News from PR
Date: Friday, May 8, 2026
Weather: Windy, Partly Sunny; High Temp 58, Low 47 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA
My Friday mornings this spring are filled by attending Jane Scarborough’s class about the U.S. Constitution. It is based on a book by author Jill LePore named ‘These Truths’. Jane has been obviously shaken by actions taken by actions taken by the Supreme Court to gut the Voting Rights Bill of 1965 and the Virginia State Supreme Court invalidating an election by the people. Day by day, our voting rights are being stripped away and it is depressing. But depression is not what we need. Each of us needs to take action. After today’s class, I went to lunch with two classmates, Karen Baranowski and Jane Woodin. We were supposed to talk about the big idea take-aways from today’s class, but that was just too depressing. So, we spent most of time catching up on life. We’ll get back to big ideas next week!
Today was the last day of classes of this school year for Coco and Ziggy. Jo sent me a description of the festivities, along with some photos. Coco will be moving to up to high school next year and Ziggy will be a senior. There was a big celebration for both. Coco will have an actual graduation ceremony next week and Ziggy still has one exam day to go. But no more classes until August. Both grandkids looked mighty happy about that!
by Judy Handley | May 7, 2026 | 2026 Life Logs |
2026 Life Logs, Day 127: Braver Angels
Date: Thursday, May 7, 2026
Weather: Partly Cloudy; High Temp 61, Low 48 degrees F
Location: At Home with My Shadow, Falmouth, MA
There is a new group in Falmouth called ‘Middle Ground’. They formed to try and work together to find ways that people on all sides of a political issue can talk and learn from each other. They discovered a national group with a local presence called Braver Angels that do just that. Braver Angels have a series of workshops. We provided the location and printed the handout. Braver Angels sent the presenter. They do this at no charge. The workshop Middle Ground chose to be their first was “Skills for Disagreeing Better” and that workshop was held tonight at the Falmouth Public Library, the workshop sponsor. There were 38 participants and I think I can safely speak for all when I say that each of us took away some news ways of ‘disagreeing better’.
About Braver Angels from Wikipedia: Braver Angels is a New York-based 501 nonprofit dedicated to political depolarization. The organization runs workshops, debates, and other events where “red” and “blue” participants attempt to better understand one another’s positions and discover their shared values.
